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Our agreement.

As a parent community, I voluntarily agree to support the following for my Grade 4 child. This is a living document — it will evolve each year as our kids mature.

The Core Four

— shared baseline
01

Delay or Simplify the Smartphone

Delay giving my child a fully unfettered smartphone until at least the end of 8th grade. If they already have one, simplify it — remove the App Store, restrict the browser, or switch to a kid-safe device.

02

Delay or Pause Social Media

Keep my child off TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, Discord, YouTube Shorts and similar platforms until at least age 13. If they already have an account, take a community pause or heavily co-monitor with family-only interactions.

03

Manage Group Chats

Keep kid group chats (iMessage, WhatsApp) small, known, and parent-visible. One unsupervised group chat can undo everything else.

04

Protect Sleep

No screens in bedrooms or bathrooms. All devices charge in a common area overnight. Screens off 60 minutes before bed.

Community Commitments

— opt in at your pace
05

Coordinated Gaming Window

Join a shared weekly gaming window (e.g., Friday 4:00–5:30 PM) so kids can play multiplayer together without the 'everyone's online except me' FOMO.

06

Monthly Outdoor Playdates

Attend or host our Grade 4 outdoor meetups at local parks. The best way to reduce screens is to replace them with real connection.

07

Sleepover Standard

When hosting a sleepover, keep phones in a common area. When sending your child, ask the host family about their screen rules. Sleepovers are where pacts quietly break.

08

Constructive Tech

Shift screen time from passive consuming (endless scrolling, Shorts, auto-play) to active creating (coding, digital art, audio-learning).

09

Quarterly Parent Check-ins

Join our quarterly parent check-ins to share ideas, compare notes, and support each other through the frustrations of digital parenting.

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